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How to Raise Developmental Concerns With Your Pediatrician

Be specific and bring it up early. Note what you see, when it started, and an example, then say plainly that you're worried about your child's development. Your observations guide screening and next steps.

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Dr. Marcus Lindqvist, MD — Pediatrician

Turns parent observations into validated developmental and autism screening, rules out medical causes like hearing or vision issues, and coordinates early intervention and therapy referrals. Gale can match you with a licensed clinician for a visit.

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Your observations matter, so trust them

You spend more time with your child than anyone, which makes your day-to-day observations genuinely valuable to a clinician. Pediatric care is built to listen for this: developmental surveillance, which includes asking parents about concerns, happens at every well-child visit, and standardized screening is scheduled at 9, 18, and 30 months 1. Public-health guidance specifically encourages families to 'act early' and talk with a provider as soon as something stands out, rather than waiting to be certain 2. Raising a worry early is not overreacting; it's the front door to getting answers.

How to prepare before the visit

A little preparation makes a big difference. Before the appointment, write down what you're noticing, when it started, and whether it's getting better, worse, or staying the same. Free milestone checklists can help you compare what your child is doing to what's typical for their age and give you concrete words to use 3. If you can, capture a short example, like a note about how your child plays, points, talks, or moves. Bringing one or two specific observations is more useful than a general sense that 'something feels off,' though that instinct is worth voicing too.

What to actually say

Clear and direct works best. Try opening with: 'I'm worried about my child's development, specifically their ___ (talking, walking, social interaction, play).' Then share your examples and ask a concrete question, such as: 'Can we do a developmental screening today?' or 'Should we consider a referral?' Standardized screening tools exist precisely to turn parent concerns into structured information 1, and autism-specific screening is recommended at the 18- and 24-month visits, so it's reasonable to ask about it directly if social or communication development is on your mind 4.

If you don't feel heard

Sometimes a first conversation ends with 'let's wait and see.' That can be reasonable, but you're allowed to ask for more. You might say, 'I'd feel more comfortable with a formal screening' or 'What signs would tell us it's time to refer?' You can also request a referral to early intervention services, which in many areas accept parent referrals directly. Documenting your concern in the visit record and scheduling a follow-up keeps the issue from getting lost. Persistence is part of advocating well for your child.

When a clinician helps

A pediatrician turns your worry into a plan. They administer validated developmental and autism-specific screening tools that measure development more precisely than instinct alone 14. They examine your child to rule out medical causes, like hearing or vision issues, that can look like a developmental delay. When support is warranted, they coordinate referrals to early intervention, speech, occupational, or physical therapy, and they can loop in your child's daycare or school. And they follow development over time, so a 'wait and see' has a defined check-in rather than being open-ended. Bringing your concern to them is what sets all of that in motion.

Common questions

What if my pediatrician says to wait and see?

That can be appropriate, but you can ask for a formal screening, request a referral to early intervention, and set a specific follow-up date. Ask what signs would change the plan so the wait has clear boundaries.

Do I need a referral to get my child evaluated?

Often not for early intervention services, which in many areas accept parent referrals directly. Your pediatrician can also place referrals and help you find the right starting point.

Am I overreacting by bringing this up?

No. Pediatric guidance encourages families to act early and share concerns rather than waiting to be sure [2]. Your observations are exactly what clinicians use to decide whether screening or evaluation is needed.

Talk to a clinician

Dr. Marcus Lindqvist, MD — Pediatrician

Turns parent observations into validated developmental and autism screening, rules out medical causes like hearing or vision issues, and coordinates early intervention and therapy referrals. Gale can match you with a licensed clinician for a visit.

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Good to know

  • —Loss of skills your child previously had (regression in speech, social, or motor skills)
  • —No response to sounds or voices, which can suggest a hearing concern
  • —A strong gut feeling that something is wrong, even without a clear example
  • —Concerns that persist after a 'wait and see' with no scheduled follow-up

This article is general education, not a diagnosis or medical advice. Your pediatrician can evaluate your individual child.

References

  1. 1.Lipkin PH, Macias MM; AAP Council on Children with Disabilities, Section on Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics (2020). Promoting Optimal Development: Identifying Infants and Young Children With Developmental Disorders Through Developmental Surveillance and Screening. Pediatrics. doi:10.1542/peds.2019-3449 ✓AAP developmental surveillance at every visit plus standardized screening at 9, 18, and 30 months turns parent concerns into structured information.
  2. 2.Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) (2024). CDC's Developmental Milestones — Learn the Signs. Act Early.. CDC (cdc.gov). link ✓Public-health guidance encourages families to act early and talk with a provider when something stands out.
  3. 3.Zubler JM, Wiggins LD, Macias MM, Whitaker TM, Shaw JS, Squires JK, Pajek JA, Wolf RB, Slaughter KS, Broughton AS, Gerndt KL, Mlodoch BJ, Lipkin PH (2022). Evidence-Informed Milestones for Developmental Surveillance Tools. Pediatrics, 149(3):e2021052138. doi:10.1542/peds.2021-052138 ✓Evidence-informed milestone checklists help parents compare to age expectations and find concrete language.
  4. 4.Hyman SL, Levy SE, Myers SM; AAP Council on Children with Disabilities, Section on Developmental and Behavioral Pediatrics (2020). Identification, Evaluation, and Management of Children With Autism Spectrum Disorder. Pediatrics. doi:10.1542/peds.2019-3447 ✓AAP recommends autism-specific screening at the 18- and 24-month visits.

4 sources, numbered by first appearance. General health information, not medical advice — synthetic demonstration content.